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Dan Bacon – The Modern Man: Mastery Methods And Mindsets

Your lack of confidence around attractive women is mostly due to ineffective and unhelpful MINDSETS.

Mindsets are essentially mental attitudes that determine how you will interpret and respond to situations (i.e. will you react with confidence, or will you feel anxious, nervous and unsure of yourself?).

Without the right mindsets, you will never be able to confidently approach beautiful women, effortlessly attract them and walk away with a phone number, kiss or more.

You will always secretly feel nervous and unsure of yourself around attractive women.

As a result, it will always be difficult for you to get anywhere because most attractive women will see right through your act of being a confident guy and reject you because of it.

Why?

Women are attracted to real confidence in men (and that comes from having the right mindsets), not surface-level confidence or pretend confidence.

Just like us men are attracted to real beauty in women, not unattractive women with surface-level makeup.

An unattractive might initially be able to trick you a little with her makeup, but when you begin to focus on her looks, you will see that she isn’t a hot girl.

The same thing goes for a guy’s confidence.

A guy may be able to get the attention of a woman with some surface-level confidence, but when she senses that his confidence is on shaky ground and can easily be destroyed if she plays hard to get, she then loses interest.

She realizes that he’s not actually a truly confident guy and is simply trying to act like one.

So, the question is: If you currently don’t have deep, unwavering and 100% real confidence around attractive women, how can you fix that?

Simple.

Start using the right mindsets.

Mindsets are where the quick-fix is in this area of life.

Mindsets are where the POWER is.

Mindsets are what create 100% real confidence now and for the rest of your life.

Additionally, when you have the right mindsets, you will notice that all of your other confidence-related problems with women magically begin to FIX THEMSELVES.

Why does that happen?

It happens because most confidence-related problems that guys have with women are INTERLINKED.

If you fix ONE of the problems, it usually then fixes a whole bunch of other problems at the same time.

Here’s an example of an interlinked, confidence-related problem:

1. Not approaching a woman because you fear what she might think of you

Imagine you’re out in public and notice a beautiful woman that you’d love to approach and meet.

In a moment of confidence, you decide that you definitely want to do it.

Yet, the very next moment your heart starts beating faster and almost pounding in your chest, you begin to feel nervous and your confidence then disappears in matter of seconds.

You start to fear what she might THINK OF YOU for approaching her (e.g. Are you a sleazy guy? Are you desperate? Are you just another annoying guy trying to pick her up?).

You also worry about what she might THINK OF YOU if she rejects you, or if other people (especially people that you know) find out what happened.

Moments later, she walks away and you never see her again.

Another great opportunity to have sex, or a relationship with a beautiful woman slips through your fingers.

2. Not talking because no-one else is talking

Imagine that you walk into a coffee shop to order a coffee to go.

As you walk in, you notice that it’s VERY QUIET and no-one else is talking in the café.

You also notice a beautiful woman behind the counter that you’d LOVE to have sex or a relationship with.

She smiles at you as you approach the counter.

Yet, instead of confidently flirting with her to create a sexual spark, you just say a few words to order your coffee and then leave the shop quietly.

Why didn’t you do what YOU wanted to do?

Why didn’t you use the opportunity to chat to her and create a spark?

Why didn’t you flirt with her by playfully teasing her for being too slow making the coffee?

The reason why is that you care more about what the random people in the cafe might THINK OF YOU for speaking aloud when everyone else is being QUIET, than actually getting what you want from your dating & relationship life with women.

You’d rather avoid the potentially painful emotions of seeing a bunch of random people frown at you, or raise their eyebrows (wooo, scary!) than enjoy the pleasure of dating, having sex and being in a relationship with that woman.

Silly, isn’t it?

Well, you’re not alone.

Most guys are afraid like that in social situations.

Only about 5% of guys out there have the confidence and courage to do what they want in a situation like that and therefore, get the girl.

Most guys just look at women, wish they could be with them and walk away with their tail between their legs like a scared dog.

You don’t have to be like them.

You can be a confident, courageous and charismatic man who gets what he wants with women because you aren’t worried or stressed about what others might THINK OF YOU.

3. Not approaching a woman because other people are watching

Imagine that you’re in a busy bar and notice two beautiful women that you’d love to meet.

As you look around the crowded room, you notice a few people in the crowd look at you and then look away.

They’ve SEEN YOU.

Do they know what you’re up to now?

Will they watch to see if you get rejected?

You’re a bad person for considering the idea of approaching the two beautiful women you like, right?

No.

The reality is that people are just randomly looking at you and they don’t care.

If you actually approach, many people actually look on and feel jealous and left out because no-one else is talking to them.

You’re actually the cool, confident guy for approaching.

Yet, if you don’t know what I just taught you, then, in a moment like that, you might suddenly change your mind about approaching because you’re worried about what random people in the bar might THINK OF YOU if you walk over to the women and it doesn’t work out.

You might worry that they will laugh at you behind your back, or worse, call out at you and make fun of you in front of other people.

So, you decide not to approach because you care more about what a random group of people might THINK OF YOU, than meeting, dating and having sex with one of those women.

As I mentioned before giving the 3 examples, many of your problems with women stem from INNER issues.

I also pointed out that if you fix ONE of your inner issues, it usually fixes many OTHERS at the same time because many of them are INTERLINKED.

So, I will now demonstrate how that works…

The quick-fix to all of the above problems is to use one of the mindsets from the Mastery Methods & Mindsets program.

That mindset is: Realize that no-one cares.

The reality is that most people are more concerned with their own life and their own issues, rather than yours.

Additionally, most people don’t give a CRAP about you, me or the next guy.

They just don’t care.

Most people don’t give you more than a passing thought and even if they do, they quickly stop thinking about you and forget about you completely.

In most cases, a person goes right back to thinking about THEMSELVES and THEIR life, because they matter themselves, not you.

It was tough for me to accept this at first and it may be a surprise for you to hear it too, but it’s true.

Not only is it true, but understanding it is a powerful way to build more social confidence.

You no longer have to worry what people are potentially thinking you.

You can then approach your dating life like the confident, masculine men do – purely on instinct.

For example: You see a woman you want to approach and you do it.

You don’t need to think and weigh up the risks, you just do it.

You don’t worry about what anyone else might think, because you realize they don’t care anyway.

The best way to understand the mastery mindset ‘Realize that no-one cares’ is to think about it from YOUR perspective.

For example: Do you remember the last time you were in a bar and saw another guy talking to a woman?

Did you care about what he was doing, or where you more concerned with what was going on for you, in your world (i.e. you weren’t getting any girls)?

Even if you DID care about what was happening in his world, did your ‘caring’ affect him in any way?

No.

He just got on with what he was doing and not you, or anyone else stopped him.

He was going after what he wanted.

You can too.

The reality is that if you want to approach a woman, then go ahead and do it… because nobody cares if you do or don’t.

Really, they don’t.

If they DO happen to be watching you talk to a woman and it is going well, here’s what most people will assume:

a) You already know her.
b) You’re better with women than they are (Remember: Most guys can’t approach unless they are drunk, or until they’ve been introduced to a woman through a friend).
c) She’s your girlfriend or a friend of yours.

If the interaction doesn’t go anywhere and you end up saying, “Hey, it was nice to meet you – I’m going to head off… have a good day/night…” here’s what most people will assume:

a) You just said goodbye to a friend.
b) You know other people in the bar, or have other friends that want to hang out with you too.
c) The woman isn’t single, so the interaction didn’t lead to anything else, but she probably still liked you.

Of course, sometimes a negative person may think, “Haha! He just got rejected…” but you won’t ever know if they thought that, nor should you care to know.

Here’s the thing…

99% of the time, most people are NOT PAYING ATTENTION to you and your life.

They are lost in their own thoughts and world and paying attention to THEIR needs, desires and wants.

When I realized this mastery mindset and started using it, I noticed that it suddenly fixed a lot of my OTHER problems with women (and in life) as well.

I felt a HUGE weight lift off my shoulders and finally felt free to be myself and do what I wanted, whenever I wanted.

I suddenly stopped caring what other people thought of me…and stopped adjusting my behavior to suit random people who DIDN’T CARE ABOUT ME ANYWAY.

It’s a life-changing level of social intelligence to achieve that results in you feeling so much more confident in social situations.

Better still, the deep, powerful, egoless confidence that comes from this mindset is like a DRUG to women.

When you display the kind of the confidence that comes from truly understanding and living this particular mindset, women can see your relaxed confidence and composure and it is thoroughly CAPTIVATING to them.

By the way…

The mastery mindset I’ve just shared with you is 1 of 10 mindsets that wecover in detail, in the Mastery Methods & Mindsets program.

You can download this program and listen to ALL of the Mastery Methods & Mindsets in the comfort and privacy of your own home right now.

This amazing program covers the deepest, most profound information you’ll ever hear on the subject of success with women & dating that naturally speeds up your results with women and helps push you to the mastery level of success (i.e. where you are always confident no matter what, women try to pick you up, you naturally attract more beautiful women and are able to effortlessly maintain their attraction).

As you integrate the mindsets from this groundbreaking program, you’ll notice that all of your seemingly UNFIXABLE problems with women gradually begin to disappear.

Then, as you challenge yourself to step up to the Mastery level with the methods (the methods are designed to get you out of your comfort zone and push your confidence and skills to the limit), you’ll notice that what you once saw as difficult or scary (e.g. approaching or dating very attractive women), you will now see as easy and fun.

All you need to do now is decide that – YES – you are ready to fix your inner problems with women ONCE AND FOR ALL.

If you are ready to that, then listen to Mastery Methods & Mindsets and watch your dating life transform.